Mummy’s entry – Rants of a mother

It is obvious that I do not have the time to blog lately …so many outdated posts drafted but not yet completed. My plans to go into ppp (pay per post aka making money while blogging) also down the drain, no where near it yet! Work has partly to be blamed, hubby traveling more for work, weekend’s errands also and oh yea, motherhood too!

And speaking of motherhood, I’m at the verge of pulling all my hair out! A two year old is not easy to handle although I’ve received many feedbacks that my girl is such an angel…well, she behaves in public but definitely not at home! Sigh!

Several days ago, I see myself being the nagging mother again (yes, I’ve been in this mode since several months back) but this time it pushed me further to think twice (maybe like a zillion times) whether I want another baby!

That morning, hubby left for work earlier than us (although I was hoping he could take the girl to the daycare). Rye Li was hanging around in my room while I was getting ready for work. She took my clothes from my bed and threw them on the floor.

Upon seeing this, I told her that it not a very nice thing to do and asked her to pick it up and put it back on the bed. She refused. And so the threatening began….if she doesn’t put it back, she will go to her naughty corner….several times. After like the 5th time or so and she still refused, I took her to her naughty corner and left her there (she now doesn’t leave the place until I allow her to).

I went about doing my stuff and let her be, she didn’t let out a cry let alone a sound while she was there.

So when it was time to leave, I asked her one more time whether she’s going to help me put back the clothes on the bed and she said “I don’t want”. And out of the house I went without her. Once I closed the door, the girl started wailing!

I opened the door and she stopped, and so I asked her to go put on her shoes and she said “I don’t want”. And I closed the door again and this time I let her cry for awhile, well more like 15 seconds or so. And when I opened the door, I asked her to go wear her shoes and she went. This girl knows how to wear her shoes (the easy ones) but she asked me to wear it for her and I gave in.

After wearing her shoes, she refused to walk, wanting me to carry her. I was already fuming mad and I told her that she has to walk but she refused. So I told her fine, she can go back to her naughty corner and stay there alone at home. And out of the house I went again. And she was wailing louder this time when I closed the door. Again, I let her be for several seconds when I realized it was close to 9am and I will be very late for work as usual (I have been late for work lately no thanks to the girl).

My blood was boiling by this time when I opened the door, went in and grabbed her, smacked her bum several times (I rarely do this, probably less than 5 times so far) but it didn’t work, the girl didn’t even make a noise when I did. So she got an earful of me while I carried her out of the house and to the lift, telling her that I was very angry at her and as usual, I’m late for work because of her dilly-dallying (she knows this word as I’ve been using for several months now on her) and she is very naughty, throwing things down on the floor and not wanting to put them back, etc.

Once we got to the lift, she asked to walk and immediately after that, I realized why she wanted to walk. She asked for my car keys as she wanted to press on them to unlock my car (I’ve been using this trick to make her walk to and fro from the car). Because I was so angry by this time, I told her no and why I’m not letting her so and to add salt to the wound, I told her that she is not going to listen to her music in the car, in fact she was going to listen to my music. And she immediately put two of her hands to her head and said “Sorry mummy” many, many times. And I responded, “No, your sorry is not going to work this time because you need to be punished”. She went on “sorry mummy” all the way to the car while I was nagging her all that time.

I did feel guilty a little bit and I gave in to her pressing on my car keys except that I held on to the keys. Once inside the car, she did ask for her music and I gave her another round of nagging and why I’m not letting her listen to her music even after she started her “sorry mummy” thingy again.

She realized that I was not giving in this time and went about sucking her thumb and she was like that all the way to the daycare.

I called hubby on the way and gave him an earful of the story too and guess what his reply was?! “So, no need to have no. 2 la!”. Men! ….I was so angry that I told him “My point is, if you can send the girl to the daycare, please do so because I cannot afford to be late for work all the time!”. And he left it as that!

So yes, I’m still contemplating to have no. 2 or not…I don’t think I can do this all over again alone! I cannot tussle with a little kid all the time and I’m sorry for the girl that she’s testing my patience when I cant afford to be patient, like rushing to get work done or going to work. I need my sanity back!

And the irony of all this?! Well, I was missing the girl like mad when I was away for a night last weekend for my company trip, which was several days before she did this to me. It’s been nearly a year since I spent the nights away from her and that night would be the 5th time I’ve ever spent the nights away from her since she was born.

Ah….Motherhood! You just got to love it don’t you!

p.s. it took me 2 days just to finish this post! Sigh!

Updates and stuff

Happy New Year everybody! On a happier note, I am feeling much better now although my eye infection is still around. Thank you to all of you for your concerns in my well-being. The fever went away on New Year’s Day itself.

this picture was taken the day before my birthday, see how unwell i looked

the contents of my party packs that will be given out the kids at the daycare

helping mummy out to pack the party packs that weekend

the morning of my birthday in which I got to open my birthday presents before heading to the hospital!

Although I didn’t get to celebrate my birthday as planned, I still got to have a little fun that day. My Kai Yeh (Godfather) came over in the evening and spent some time with me. He even watched Finding Nemo with me!

We were not awake during the countdown. All of us were fast asleep although we heard the sounds of the fireworks outside at midnight but we were too tired to be bothered by it.

On Wednesday, I got to celebrate my belated birthday with the rest of the kids at Aunty Ng’s when Mummy and Papa dropped me off. I wasn’t in a good mood though and even my Tweety bird cake didn’t cheer me up. We celebrated outside of Aunty Ng’s place after which I played at the garden area.

everyone singing to me (and I was so grumpy)

aunty ng's passing me my present from her

with Jesslyn and Alvern. i was holding on to my present, refusing to let the others touch it

On other updates, my Terrible Twos are here to stay. I’ve been extra gluey to Mummy ever since I was ill and any little thing that upsets me, I will cry. Mummy gave into me when I was ill but the last few days, she just let me cry it out.

I don’t listen much to Mummy and Papa these days, doing what I fancy anytime. I will let them nag me over and over again and I like testing their patience. At times I get away with it but most times, I will be punished at my naughty corner when I get really out of hand or they will just let me cry it out.

I’ve also been really cheeky lately, nothing new here, I’m only learning it from Mummy as she likes to tease me all the time.

During one of the nights when I was having my high fever and both Mummy and Papa were trying to coax me into taking my fever medicine orally, I had to tell them over and over again “vomit” as I was afraid that I will vomit everything out. Since my “vomit” didn’t get the message across, I pointed out my index finger at them and move it from left to right and tell them “no-no”. They found it funny but still, they insisted I took the medicine. In the end, they won the battle as they threatened me with that thing that was supposed to go up my bum if I don’t take my medicine orally.

Last time, when you ask me who Rye Li is, I will put up my hand and say “me”. Now, depending on my mood, I will either say that or say “mummy”. Whatever questions you ask me these days, the answer will always be “mummy”. People find this funny but my answer is simple, I want people to know that the naughty one is Mummy and not me! And when Mummy or Papa scolds me, I will tell them that they are naughty for scolding me.

The other day, when Mummy asked me who Rye Li is and I answered “mummy”. She replied “Ok, I will call you Mummy now. Hello Mummy”. I replied “No-la, mummy is this” and I pointed to her.

I also like to point my finger at Mummy and say “stop it!” when she irritates me (like how she does to me). And when I want something, I will go “Give me NOW”. I will be reprimanded when I say these and will be reminded to say please. But can you blame me for saying these? I only learn from what I hear most of the time. Really!

Mummy's entry - My baby is 2 and still not feeling well

Today, the girl is 2 years old and sadly, she hasn't recovered from her high fever which started last Thursday. Instead of having her little party at the daycare, we spent half the day at the hospital, getting her blood test done.

First thing this morning, we allowed her to open her birthday presents under the Christmas tree, she received double presents for Christmas and we saved some for her birthday. At least she was happy for a bit.

The poor girl asked to go to Aunty Ng's (her caretaker) and I was also contemplating to go ahead with the little party which is to bring her birthday cake and party packs (which she helped us to pack over the weekend) and have all the kids sing the birthday song to her. But I was putting myself into other parents' shoes, I wouldn't want a sick kid at the daycare to spread the germs.

Thank God the blood test showed all is alright except that she has a viral infection as suspected and some slight bacteria which probably from her eye infection. He gave us antibiotics on Saturday (which we brought her in again to see her doctor) for her eye infection since the girl is not letting us go anywhere near her eye. He said that her infection can be contagious if she goes near or touches other kids which was why I held back on going ahead with her little party.

Her Aunty Ng called just now to check on her condition and also to see if we're coming in her her party. I told her better not and perhaps we can have it on Wednesday morning when I send her in. Luckily for me, Secret Recipe is willing to hold on to her cake for me and I will pick it up tomorrow to be kept at Aunty Ng's. I've no space left in my fridge to keep a 2 and a half kg cake (I know it is hard to believe coming from someone who hardly cooks at home!)

Aunty Ng said not to mention to the girl about what we're going to do on Wednesday stating that some of the kids at the daycare have also fallen sick before their party and had to cancel last minute. And this is because they knew about their upcoming parties. I actually had this in mind too but didn't give it any thought till Aunty Ng mentioned it. Some Chinese taboo thingy I believe. Some kids are just sensitive towards these I guess. We shall see how next year's go then.... :)

Anyhow, when we left SJMC about 1 plus in the afternoon, we wanted to have lunch and decided for TGIF since we can celebrate her birthday and get some people to sing to her. It was such a bad idea as the girl was already tired and we had to rush the people to sing to her first before she fell asleep. Seeing the poor girl's condition after the birthday song was sang to her, hubby decided to pack all our ordered food and go home.

It has been a tiring weekend for all of us. The girl refuses to take her medication and we had to coax her. Mind you, this process takes a very long time, at least half an hour and more. Initially, she will take her fever medication orally as we threatened her with the suppositories (which she is afraid off eversince her constipation issues) but since she puked out some one night, she has been saying "vomit" every time we ask her to take her medication. So, I've given up in coaxing her and just forced the suppositories up her bum. And as for sponging her or putting the coolaid thingy on her forehead to cool her temperature down, this has also been another battle. She refuses all these, including taking her temperature (even the forehead reader!). Day time, I will give her a shower to cool her body but night time, we had no choice but to wait for the medicine to work on her. Lucky for us, she asks for water throughout the night so I'm guessing it is this that also cools her down.

She is asleep now as I'm typing this. I should also sleep as I'm not feeling too well from all the lack of sleep and battles with the girl. What a new year eve celebration for us....we will be asleep early tonight for sure and will not even see the fireworks happening outside our window like we saw last year.

Didn't expect to end the year like this nor have the last post here to sound so dreary. Hopefully, tomorrow, the 1st day of 2008 will be a better one for us. As for her birthday celebrations, will make it up to her when she is feeling way better. Happy Birthday Rye Li! Mummy and Papa promise you that you will have many, many, many more happy celebrations to come for your birthdays!

And a happy new year to all of you! :D

And so this is Christmas

It was an eventful weekend towards Christmas. First, it was a celebration with our London family friends on Saturday night. Pictures as follows:-

my London boyfriend, Emre, enjoying his chunk of lamb. he is 3 weeks older than me.

this is Emre's mummy, Aunty Mills, I'm not as friendly as Emre and didn't want her to carry me

with Uncle Peter, one of the gang from London as well

took me awhile to blend in and when I did, I was all over with the kids running here and there and I was all drenched in sweat

My cousin's Jo Tien's birthday that day and we all celebrated with him as well that night

Then it was dinner with our Australian relatives on Sunday night...

And on Christmas eve, we were at Mummy's Grandma's house....

The first thing I did, to sit on the chair, refusing to be brought anywhere else in the house as I was scared of the dog. Mummy had to coax me a good 10 minutes to get out of the car.

this is the first time we have this at the house, done by my Nana (Mummy's Aunty Na with Natalie's help, mummy's little cousin)

as usual, the Christmas tree with his overloading pressies

with the kids in front of the Christmas tree

the next day at Mummy's Grandma's on the swing

We went back to Mummy's Grandma's house on Christmas day to open my Christmast presents and then later we went to my Kai Yeh's (godfather) parent's house, my Kong-Kong and Por-Por Hwang for the rest of the day...we met Aunty Pei See, Uncle Ronnie, Uncle Adrian, Aunty Siew Wye and Shawn there.

Shawn got me a Christmas present which was a range of masak-masak set (malay: cooking) and I really enjoyed playing with it.

I even started making tea and stuff to offer to everyone....










But the real tea or in this case coffee was better with the home-made egg tarts done by Aunty Siew Wye....

a family christmassy picture

Shawn and I were monkeying around....

After all that playing and monkeying around, we were both so tired...just nice in ending the night. And so this is my Christmas for this year. Hope you had a good one as well!

Sick again

What is with year end and sick babies?!!! Go around on the mommies blogs and you will see a few kids are illl lately. And I'm one of them.

I've been having an eye infection in my left eye since we got back from our Pangkor Island trip more than a week back but it was pretty mild. And mummy didn't think she should bring me to see the doctor. Then when I got back from Aunty Ng's on Wednesday night, my eyes were kind of swollen and the next morning (which was yesterday) I had a mild fever of 38 degrees.

Mummy took me to see Dr. Foo (the one I like) and he confirmed my eye infection and said the fever was not part of it and that I'd probably got a viral infection again. So he asked to manage my fever with fever medication and he gave some eye-drops and ointment for my eyes.

I don't allow anyone, not even Aunty Ng to administer the eye medicine on me so I've been tricked to having them put on my eye.

My fever didn't exactly go away and it went to as high as 40 degress in the middle of the night last night. Mummy wasn't sure whether it could be higher since the forehead thermometer we got has a maximum of 40 degrees. I was woken up and forced to take the fever medication.

When I got up this morning, the fever was in between 38 and 39 degrees. Mummy asked Aunty Ng to give me the fever medication throughout the day to stabilize it. She hopes my fever will go away by tomorrow morning, if not, I will have to be brought back to see Dr. Foo again if it is still high.

As for my left eye, it's not getting any better and I predict there will be more screams and cries from me tonight.

I pray that I will get well to at least celebrate my birthday on Monday.

Merry Christmas Everybody!

This is a video Mummy managed to take of me singing (ok, more like Mummy singing)....

I love singing this song lately but I didn't actually sing it fully in the video as I wasn't being very cooperative. Mummy had to do this so many times and finally she had to bribe me...with a sweet!

A couple of days later, she tried her luck again...also numerous times...and this is what she got...

Merry Christmas everybody and a Happy New Year!