Thursday, October 30, 2008

Mummy’s entry – When Rye Li met Haye Li

I have to say that I once again, underestimate Rye Li. I should give her more benefit of the doubt. Overall, she has taken to her mei-mei way better than what I expected.

Since Haye Li came out early in the morning and I was already all knocked out by the delivery, hubby went and pick Rye Li up from my sister’s place. He brought her home to make my confinement drink and later, brought her out to get a gift for Rye Li and Haye Li. Rye Li’s gift from Haye Li was bought some time back and has been in hubby’s car all this while. I got her a Disney Princess activity book which has some colouring book, stickers and a puzzle (something she loves doing lately). I also added a Mickey Mouse colouring book in it. Her papa also bought her a toy at the store while she chose a gift for her mei-mei.

By the time she came to the hospital, it was early evening. I made sure that Haye Li wasn’t in the room with me then (something I just learnt from my colleague that week itself, that is, do not have the baby in the room with you yet when the elder sibling arrived).

When she came into the room, her eyes were looking all over – I’m guessing either to see where her mei-mei was or where her gift was. Hubby was carrying her and I asked her to come to me. She willingly came to me. She wasn’t her usual self and that was because she just woke up from the car ride.

Hubby went back to the car to take the presents up – they were huge as Rye Li chose a ‘masak-masak’ (malay: cooking) set for herself while she chose a baby Mickey and Minnie musical mobile for Haye Li (hubby said she insisted on this one instead of a nicer and cheaper one so he gave in).

I asked her if she wants to see mei-mei and she said yes. But she was more engrossed with her gifts than mei-mei later on. I guess this kind of worked as she didn’t react to me carrying and nursing Haye Li later on. When it was time to leave, she did show her face as she wanted to be with me and I reminded her that I’ve told her before (which I have prepared her for many weeks now) that my doctor said I need to stay at the hospital for 2 nights and that her papa will be looking after her. I told her that I would see her again the next day. She accepted it and later hubby told me that in the car she told him “I miss my mummy and mei-mei”. She was also alright throughout the night without me. In fact, too good! Those 2 nights without me, she didn’t ask for milk at all from hubby but when I came home, she had been asking for milk in the middle of the night!

The next day, same thing. Not much of an issue and I told her that we will be coming home the next day itself.

While breastfeeding Haye Li, I pulled Rye Li’s leg and told her that once mei-mei was done, it would be her turn. She found this funny and said “no”. I did this to her many times and her reply was always “no”. On the day we checked out, I tested her again and she came to me. She actually put her lips to my nipple and then went “eee-yuh”. I asked her why as she used to drink my nen-nen and her reply was “Because it’s smelly!”. Haha...reverse psychology do work! ;)

Also, on the day they came to take us home, I asked her permission whether her mei-mei and I could go home with her. I allow her to make decisions when it is appropriate and when she makes them, I praise her. When she was playing with her cooking set, she asked whether her mei-mei can play with her. I told her that she is still too small but praised her anyway for wanting to share her new toys with her mei-mei.

So how has it been so far at home?! Well, she has yet to throw any tantrums or voice out her unhappiness with mei-mei being around. But she has been showing her sulky face when she can’t get things her way – not that she has not been this way too before. The first night home, I happened to put Haye Li next to me on my bed. This is where Rye Li sleeps and when I asked her to come lie down on the bed, she refused with a sulky face. Then only I realized it was her spot and I said that I will put mei-mei back into the cot. Only after that, she lay down on her side. I told myself that I need to be extra careful now when dealing with no. 2 in front of no. 1.

But I am amazed that she is alright with me handling Haye Li all the time and when Haye Li cries, she tells me that “mei-mei wants nen-nen”.

She is not happy that I can’t bathe her now or get her ready for bed. So I’m compromising with her that either her papa or Kakak bathe her and I will wear her clothes for her. I try my best to be with her when I’m not attending to Haye Li but I can tell you, it is not easy at all as you’re already so tired from the sleepless nights. I will post more on the aftermath at my blog. This is all about how Rye Li is taking it to her new sister.

I’m just overall proud of her and I know it has only been a week. I have been preparing her big time for this and I also heard that no matter how much you’ve prepared them for a younger sibling to come, there will still be some resistance. This was why I expected the worst but instead, I was surprised myself. If there are any changes, I will also post on this.

Saturday, October 25, 2008

My mei-mei is here!

My mei-mei came out already! Here's some pictures of her and I together...if you want to see more of her pics, you can go to her site at

Sunday, October 19, 2008

Some updates

Just to update on some of my conversations with Mummy lately…she claims I talk too much and like to ask questions over and over again at the wrong time. But I feel she asks me more questions and also that I have learnt to talk from her!

I was singing a tune one day and mummy went…
Mummy: What song are you singing?
Rye Li: I don’t know…..I think (it) is my music class song

I like to make up songs with familiar tunes I know, something I picked up from mummy.

One night, when it was time for bed and after mummy read me my story…

Mummy: Why papa didn’t switch off the lights ah?
Rye Li: You also didn’t switch off the lights!

I can get defensive at times.


Rye Li: Mummy, my finger pain
Mummy: How come? What did you do?
Rye Li: I didn’t do anything also
Mummy: Then why your finger pain?
Rye Li: I don’t know

Since papa sleeps on the mattress these days while I sleep with Mummy on their bed, papa’s mattress would be laid up against the wall daytime and will be put down on the floor nighttime. One night….

Rye Li: Mummy, I put papa’s mattress down okay?
Mummy: No girl, wait for papa first. The mattress is heavy, afterwards it will fall on you.
Rye Li: *went ahead anyway to put the mattress down, and mattress hit me a little and I looked at Mummy for a response*
Mummy: *just gave me the stare* (she likes to do this a lot lately which I tend to ignore)
Rye Li: *went to papa who was showering at that time* Papa, I put your mattress down on the floor for you
Papa: Thank you baby!
Rye Li: *went to mummy* My papa didn’t scold me also

Rye Li: Mummy, after we finish dinner, we go shopping?
Mummy: No girl, we’re going home, mummy cannot walk
Rye Li: Papa can walk, why you cannot walk?
Mummy: *quiet* (probably dumbfounded)
Rye Li: *with sarcasm tone* Papa can walk, Rye Li can walk, Kakak can walk also
Papa: *laughing*
Mummy: I cannot walk because I’m tired!
Rye Li: Oh

Rye Li: Mummy, I’m hungry. I want to eat Chickadees
Mummy: That is not proper food for breakfast, it’s junk food
Rye Li: I like junk food
Mummy: No, you need to eat proper food for breakfast. How to grow big and strong?
Rye Li: I want to eat bread only. After I (have) finish (ed) my bread, can I eat Chickadees?
Mummy: No, we only eat junk food when we go for holidays!

When I’m in the mood, I can tell my own stories and it will go something along like this

Rye Li: Once upon a time, there is a …….and then, he …… and then…..and then…….

After several “and thens”, I will go “the end, finish!


Other stuff I like to say….

Rye Li: Thank you soooo much!

Rye Li: I need to sleep ady (already), it’s so late at night

Rye Li: Why you always go toilet one? [mummy goes wee-wee all the time now!]

Rye Li: Why you all like to talk, talk, talk one ah?

Rye Li: My papa is a boy. He hold his kuku bird like this (indicating the action while standing) and wee wee

Rye Li: Don’t fight with me okay?!


Mummy has been getting a lot of stuff ready for my mei-mei's arrival lately and one of them was my old baby bassinet. When she took it out, I kept playing with below.

see how i've grown, still can sit but my legs and head are longer!

even after the cover was taken out to wash, i still played with it!

this is me on it the first time, on our way home from the hospital. mummy wonders whether my mei-mei will also look like this, probably bigger than i was

a picture of me swimming at my kai yeh's 2 weeks back, most likely will go back ther next weekend if mei-mei is not out yet

Saturday, October 18, 2008

Mummy's entry - Was it love at first sight?

No, I’m not referring to the hubby. LOL. I’m referring to the very first time you set your eyes on your newborn baby. Was it love at first sight for you?

I’m going to admit that it wasn’t for me for Rye Li’s case when I delivered her. It wasn’t hate either. It was just very neutral. That’s it.

I guess when you watch TV, you tend to see cute little babies all the time and also you do tend to see those cute newborns online when you go to baby’s sites, etc. So I guess I had that impression that my newborn will be all that cute too which she wasn’t at all. LOL

Anyway, although I didn’t have that love at first sight feeling for her, I did have the mother instincts in me and therefore, my first priority when she was out was to breastfed her and lucky for me, the hospital I delivered at also believed in this. When she was taken away from me after the first attempt of breastfeeding which I was surprised as to how she latched on naturally immediately, I didn’t see her till like 6-7 hours later. When they brought her to me later, I only knew that I wanted to attempt again at breastfeeding but wasn’t really successful because this girl chose to sleep than suckle. So the next 2 days at the hospital saw me trying again and again for this.

So when did my love for her started? I can say in the days to come after she came out. Before this motherly love came along, it was just motherly duties for me.

But when the motherly love came along, it was unconditional love for sure till today of course! ;) …Now that Baby H is just around the corner, I wonder whether will I get that immediate motherly love or will it be the same with Rye Li’s case too.

I’m going to turn this into a tag (the first for me and will probably be my last) as I would like to hear from my blogger mummies friends out there whether they experienced the same as I did or something totally different. I will tag to those (very limited) that I know only and they are:-

1) Kittycat
2) Vien
3) ZMM
4) Chinnee
5) Sasha
6) Wen
7) Anna
8) Footprints
9) Momsie Tales
10) Mumsgather
11) Scribbles for my angels
12) Twinnila
13) Kai Jin
14) Baby Liv