Thursday, February 04, 2010

Mummy's entry - Little Ms. Bossy!

My Rye Li is also a little Ms. Bossy. I am aware of this with her behaviour in our household and also when she is with her cousins.

The last 1 month, I have been taking her and 3 of her friends (one boy and 2 girls) from the day-care to school every weekday morning. And boy, having four 4 year olds in the car is no easy task. During the first week of school, I saw Rye Li’s true colour and this is probably how she behaves at the day-care all this while too. She is not happy that her friends got to sit in her car. Since her place in our car has always been at the front, next to me, she kept asking me “why my friends no need car seats?” and “I want to sit behind too”, etc. Of course, I didn’t bother giving in to her and her face, was black throughout the short journey to school.

All of them knows Mammamia soundtrack and hence, the 4 kids would be singing throughout the journey as well. The first day, Rye Li joined in. After that, till now, she refused to let me play the soundtrack and I know it’s because her friends know how to sing the songs. Rye Li likes to show off that she knows a lot of things so in this case, she cannot. I didn’t give in to her that first week and let her friends enjoy the soundtrack for the first 3 weeks till I myself got fed up and now they are listening to my radio. :D

There is one girl who is also very strong in character (I believe stronger than Rye Li’s) while the other girl and boy are softer in nature and will usually give in to Rye Li and this other girl. Everyday, for sure Rye Li and this girl will get into an argument and I had to threaten these 2 to stop fighting or else I will leave them 2 by the roadside to apologize to each other. They have been quoting this ever since when I warned them each time to stop fighting. LOL!

When I asked Rye Li why must she always fight with her, she will say “XX always like to do (bully) me, so I fight with her la”. I’m also guessing Aunty Ng (their caretaker at the day-care) has a role here as she always threaten each of them when they do not want to finish their medicine or food at the day-care, that she will give it to either one of them. By the way, this is also the girl Rye Li slapped before when Rye Li was only 2 and a half years old!.

There was one time in the car, Rye Li was sulking big time for something she didn’t get her way with and I told her off. XX (who also speaks quite well, the best of them all), upon hearing me telling Rye Li off said “Rye Li, you cannot have it your way the whole day, you must take turns” and Rye Li immediately rebutted “XX! This is my car okay and I can have it the whole day!

These 2 strong-headed girls also fight with each other to get the attention of the other 2 kids. One will show off with one thing and the other will rebut with another thing. When I chose to ignore, the arguments can get quite bad and I just have to shut them off by telling them not to fight and warning them. Sigh!

I didn’t want to make it seem to Rye Li that I’m siding with her friends all the time so when her friends do some wrongs in my car, I will tell them off nicely. XX will get the most, as she loves pushing the other kids one side, to get out of the car first or bully the other kids when they don’t listen to her. The very first time I told her off for this, she was surprised and showed her black face and I made her wait while the others get off first. The next day and after that, she will let them out first and told me “Aunty, I let ZZ out first” as if getting my approval means something to her (all kids are the same, they all want the needed attention and recognition). And just to add, whenever I scold XX off, Rye Li will add “XX (is) always so naughty!” and the other girl, the soft-natured one will add on “Ya, XX (is) always so naughty!” The only boy is always to himself or singing if Mammamia soundtrack is on. I’m guessing he is so used to the girls fighting. LOL!

There are times Rye Li will tell me “I don’t want my friends to sit in my car” or “I don’t want XX to sit in my car”. I have to explained to her why I am sending them as well since I need to drop off her mei-mei to the daycare, her friends are just following us to school as their parents cannot send them. Anyway, this is just until end of February as March onwards, her school will start at 8am and the other kids’ parents will be able to drop them off to school then.

This week again, Rye Li got jealous when I was talking to her friends and told me “I don’t want you to talk to my friends” or when I happened to answer one of them “yes, my dear” when they were calling me to tell me something, Rye Li went “Why you said ‘my dear’?, ZZ is not your daughter okay!

I bet you that once I have stopped sending her friends to school, this girl will miss her friends in our car.


Health Freak Mommy said...

Oh gosh, Rye Li does sound really bossy, bossier than my #2! And I am laughing at her comment "she do me first" coz my 2 older gals love to say that too and I just hate it when they say that hahahah! Rye Li is a smart girl. She knows what she wants and no one can bully her!

KittyCat said... have driver duty now? Hahahahaha

I just heard from the principal that Lucas is bossy too and always wants to be No. 1.

He tends to push other kids away too and yup, he got a wee bit jealous when I snapped group photos at his kindy's birthday celebration.

She has grown so much! It'd be really nice to put the two of them together again to see how they'll get on :)

Good luck till March :P

ryeli said...

hfm: i also don't like they way kids say "she/he do me"...sounds weird. lol!

kittycat: yes, i'm a 'bus-driver' these 2 months in the mornings. got another 9 more school days and i cannot wait. all of them are driving me crazy! lol!

A Mom's Diary said...

Classes start at 8am in March? Haiyo...I'm glad Yiu Yiu's kindy will still start at 8.30am but ends at 12.30pm instead of 11.45am. If not, have to wake up before 6am liao.