5 ponytails!

Usually mummy would ask me whether I would like to tie my fringe or to tie two ponytails or one ponytail when it is time to tie my hair. Over last weekend, I answered her “5 ponytails!” and she did just that….

Don’t I look cute?! But mummy thinks I look like a soh por (mad woman).

Mummy’s entry – the things she says!

Don't let her innocent look fool you.... :D

Rye Li’s not even 3 years old yet and she sure has a lot to say! At times I feel as if she’s like an old aunty (yes I know, she probably got the lingo off me!). There have been so many things lately she has conversed with us which (I hope I’ve remembered all) caught us by surprise but last night’s outburst from her to her paternal grandparents really reminded me that I need to update her blog on this.

Being grandparents, they like to tease her now and then which usually will make Rye Li irritated and she would reply back with a “NO!” or “I don’t want!” and even “I don’t friend you”. But last night, she went “Next time don’t come (to) my house!” which made her Ah Kong and Ah Por burst out in laughter. Of course, I had to reprimand her and told her not to be rude and further explained to her later that it was not a nice thing to say. I told her to just tell them not to disturb her if she doesn’t like what they have to say. Not sure if she understood my lecturing or not.

There was even one time when her Ah Por told her not to watch too close to the TV and she replied “I don’t want to talk to you” and continued watching her Barney, ignoring her Ah Por.

Last week, when we picked her up from the daycare, Aunty Ng told us to be careful of what we say in front of the girl. Apparently, she told one of her daycare mates, after seeing her in a Mamy Poko diapers, “So expensive diapers, waste money only!”

I have myself to be blamed for this as several weeks ago, she saw some Mamy Poko diapers for her mei-mei, Haye Li which I got as samples. I guess it reminded Rye Li of her time when she was wearing Mamy Poko diapers at nights. We used to point out the Pooh bear and friends characters from the diapers at nights before bedtime. I’ve stopped buying this brand since their quality isn’t as good anymore and that Huggies is a cheaper alternative for at nights (she only wears diapers when we go out for a long time or when she wants to poo during the daytime so I have resorted in buying cheaper diapers for this).

Anyway, when she saw Haye Li’s Mamy Poko’s diapers, she asked me to buy some for her and I replied (without thinking) “No need, they are so expensive, waste money only!”. I didn’t realize that she would use the same on others. I guess we as parents need to be mindful that not only we need to be careful for not swearing in front of the kids, but also other negative things that we are so used in saying.

Other than the above negative stuff she has to say, she loves conversing with us now. One night while watching her ritual cartoon before bedtime, she turned to me and said “You know what happen (ed) to my leg at Aunty Ng’s today?”. And I replied “what?” and she continued “I scratch (ed) and scratch (ed) until the thing (the mosquito bite on her leg) come (came) out”

Or she would tell me that her friends at Aunty Ng do not want to friend her anymore because they are all so naughty (I think it's definitely the other way round).

At times, I would ask her stuff of what she did at the daycare and she will tell me a lot of things. I wasn’t sure whether some of the things were real or not till I asked Aunty Ng and true enough, all the things she had to tell me were true.

There was one night as well that we had some guests over and they stayed till quite late. This girl came and asked me in front of them “Why the aunty don’t (doesn’t) want to go home?”. Yes, she is also getting bolder and just last weekend when we had our families over for Haye Li’s full moon, just when our guests were leaving, this girl went “Nobody can take my mei-mei home!”

I’m wondering what will the next shocker from her would be now… sigh!

Guess who is who? *updated*

This is an updated one of the below post....looks like most got it right. A & C are Rye Li and B & D are Haye Li. There are some similarities but they do look different, we shall see when Haye Li grows in the next several months.

Here's four pictures...two are me when I was a baby, and the other two are my mei-mei, Haye Li. Will let you know by Haye Li's full moon, next Friday, 21st November 2008, the answer. :D ....Mummy still thinks that both of us look like our Ah Mai (papa's sister).

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Why are we doing this? Coz people has been saying we look alike and yet papa disagree. But there are many pictures that show our similarities. Mummy doesn't see what is his problem since both of us look more like his side than mummy's side. She always tell people that I only resemble her 'there' all this while and she's doing the same to my mei-mei too.

Sticking to mummy

From this post, papa managed to snap a shot of how gluey I am to Mummy lately.

What exactly am I doing? Well, I'm lying down on mummy's legs while watching my cartoon on TV.

Over the weekend

My weekends lately have been filled with loads of people at our house. I’m alright with this as I get loads of people and kids to play with me. Only recently, mummy managed to get some pictures of me with one of my visitors.

Depending on my mood, I will let the kids play with my toys which I have been. But at times, I will snatch them back and don’t let them play. And poor baby Liv got this from me. She came over the weekend with her mama, Aunty Carine and Aunty Pei See with her baby, Kai Jin. Kai Jin wasn’t too playful so I only played with Liv. Mummy didn’t manage to get a picture of all three of us again (she has been trying to since we all met for the first time – with baby Liv anyway – three weeks ago!)

The following pictures are mostly with Baby Liv – again, mummy has been hopeless at taking pics when there are visitors around. Baby Liv is nearly two years younger than I but she is around the same weight as I am too. Mummy has been telling me that I need to eat more proper food than the junk food I like so that I can grow taller at least.

with aunty carine, our driver, mummy says this is a good way to lose some pounds!

Baby Liv, I had fun playing with you. Sorry if I snatched some of my toys of you, I will let you play with them again next time okay?! Just don't forget to bring your mummy along, we need her for our driver again!

On Sunday morning, I went to Aunty Ng’s for one of my daycare mate’s, William’s birthday party. Papa took me there and I wanted him to stay with me. As you can see from some of the pics, I was back to being “Ms. Grumps” again.

with Madelene mei-mei, William's sister (I like playing with her at Aunty Ng's)

yes, she is nearly as big as me although she's only 1 and a half years old

Mummy’s entry – “Don’t want mei-mei”

Guess it’s too good to be true if Rye Li really didn’t have problems adjusting to her new mei-mei. In the first week, she was alright with some unhappy faces now and then.

However, in the second week, more like over the weekend, she started showing her true colours. I guess it’s also due to the fact that she didn’t have a nap that day. She wanted milk and then changed her mind that she wanted milo and she wanted to make it herself. So I said I will teach her and then I found her toys to be scattered everywhere on the floor and asked her to put them back. She reluctantly did it with a black face and took her own sweet time. So I hurried her with a lot of nagging and still it didn’t work. So I took the cane out and she hurried a little but wanted me to help her. By this time I was too mad to help her and started threatening her with the cane. Till this day, I have yet to use the cane on her but only to threaten her when she gets out of line.

I guess having the cane also didn’t work and I was boiling mad already. So I nagged her and told her that I will take all her toys and throw them away and so I packed the toys into a bag and kept them out of sight. I also didn’t want her to think that the cane is only for ‘show’ so I used it for the first time on her hand. She cried after that pitifully and went to her room on her own and cried on her bed. I let her be for a while.

After that, I went to her and asked her to apologize and told her that I will make her milk and to lie down in her room. I added that I will also sleep with her. She didn’t dare to ask for her milo as she knew I was boiling mad already. After she drank her milk, she fell asleep with me at her side. I wanted to be there for her when she got up but she slept through our dinner time so we left her be in her room.

When she got up, I was already with Haye Li and I guess she wasn’t happy with that sight. She starting making a fuss, not listening to us at all. This time, Haye Li also wanted to be nursed. And Rye Li insisted that I carried her. So I passed Haye Li to hubby and asked Rye Li to come onto my lap on the sofa (I don’t dare to carry her just as yet since she is pretty heavy). I tried reasoning with her but her mood was pretty messed up already. Then she said “Don’t want mei-mei” and I went, “Ok, if you don’t want mei-mei, mummy will find an uncle or aunty out there who wants mei-mei and I will give mei-mei away”. She wasn’t happy with this either but whatever it was, no matter how much coaxing we gave her, she refused to let me nurse Haye Li then and the poor baby was crying too. Luckily, I had a bottle of expressed milk in the fridge and hubby warmed that up for her.

So I tried coaxing the big baby for a while and she asked for Milo. She actually remembered the events before her nap and asked that she wants to make it herself. And so I gave in and only then she said “Ok, mummy, mei-mei” and pointed at me and then to Haye Li (indicating that I can nurse her now). I just told her “Too late already girl, papa already warm up the bottle! And now I got to go and pump”).

Since that day, it has been a struggle now and then when she’s home (this is why I insisted that she still goes to the daycare as I would not be able to handle two kids at one go even with help at home as she wants my attention too!). It’s interesting when I reminded her that she said doesn’t want mei-mei anymore so whoever comes to my place, I would tell her that they would take her mei-mei back and she would not allow this saying “Nobody take my mei-mei, my mei-mei is mine!”. As much as she is jealous over her new sister’s existence, she is also very protective over her.

We also had our fair share of:-

“I hate mei-mei”
“I want to fight with mei-mei’
“I don’t want to friend / talk to mei-mei”

When I’m in a better mood, I will reason with her on what she had just said. But when I’m already tired, I will ignore what she just said.

We are also learning how to deal with two kids at the same time. It is very exhausting and I’m so careful not to overdo my conversations with Haye Li in front of the big baby so my bonding with her is only when Rye Li is not around. Or when I do have conversations with her in front of Rye Li, I will need to include Rye Li too.